~When you take ownership of your own fears and insecurities is when you can set yourself free of them. But when you hold others responsible for wounds you delay your own healing or become the wound. ~
You have to take care of your own injuries…waiting for an apology or a retraction from another person to end your suffering will never be the antidote for your healing. When a person inflicts you with hurtful words or actions that person is just releasing the pain from a wound that has been inflicted upon them; and by you taking ownership of “their” actions or words you become wounded.
Releasing the person or the cause for your wound and replacing your attention toward healing the wound is when your recovery is quick and your scaring will be minimal or obsolete. But… when your focus is on the “who, “what “or” why” you were inflicted; your wound is left open and it will heal leaving massive scaring which will be a constant reminder that you were wounded, and you will wound others.
No other person can make you feel fearful or lower about yourself unless you already own those thoughts, or if you have had a previous wound in the same area. In order to heal, you must first own up to the fact that you are wounded and then through your ownership you will be able to see that you just have a wound, but the wound is not who you are.