When we base our self-worth on having someone to love us above having love for our self … we will connect with others who are looking for love, instead of looking to extend their love.
True love must be found within yourself and for yourself first; before you can truly own it for another person. Unfortunately many of us do not feel it for ourselves because of past pain and life choices that have tarnished our self-worth; so we constantly seek to “feel” it through the attention of others.
A true connection of love between two people will only be pure and solid if both parties own love for themselves; otherwise one or both will be seekers that will always be seeking to find fulfillment through others and things outside the relationship.
When you” own” love and respect for yourself you will not betray yourself to have a superficial love from another person. You must look deep within and feel the love from your creator, be the love you feel, know that you are worth the love you feel, then extend your love to others… to help them awaken to see that they too can own it within and that they are worthy.
The baggage left by our ancestors is not placed in the lost and found… it is passed down to the bloodline of new arrivals for them to carry.
We are born into a world surrounded by invisible luggage that is filled with the conditioning of our parents, their parents and so on and so on…The contents of each bag will either become the clothing of our soul that we carry and pass down or that of which we detach and dispose of on our journey and for those who follow.
No matter what circumstances we were born into; we are all given a heart of our own that provides personal insight and guidance to follow or we can choose to follow what we witness in others. The imprints left behind by our ancestors are not the blue-prints for how we should live… they were left to show us what was, but we are here to do better.